dreamstime_xxl_42602961When it comes to your marriage ending, you are more likely to get emotional than not. That’s fine. There is a huge chapter of your life that is coming to an end and grieving the loss of seemingly the most important relationship in your life is something that more often than not, has to happen. However, there is a very distinct difference between being emotional in the privacy of your own home and in a meeting with your soon-to-be ex-spouse and your lawyers.

The reason avoiding emotion during mediation is helpful is that is allows you to present yourself as competent. Who do you think is more likely to get what they want out of a divorce: the person sobbing and screaming at the top of their lungs or the person who sits calmly and respond to questions rationally and at a regular volume? That’s right, the person who appears to be level-headed is much more likely to get their way.

There are, however, hot button issues that often cause those who are going through the divorce to fly off the handle. The most common hot button issue is that of custody of children. Parents get very easily excited when it comes to their children, and rightfully so. If you know that you will react emotionally to something specific, be sure to disclose that information to your lawyer so that if need be, he/she can navigate the conversation elsewhere or perhaps pull you into another room for a few minutes so that you can calm down.

Remember, it’s alright to be upset about your divorce, but make sure to do so in a place and manner that will not make you look bad. If you need help arranging a divorce, call the experts at Pavithran Law today!