When you had your children, your life was forever changed. Now that you are getting a divorce, you can expect that the same thing is going to happen again. However, since you have children, it is imperative that you think about how you can disrupt their lives as little as possible while you are going through this difficult time, as well as in the future. Taking care of children while living in separate homes will undoubtedly be hard at first. On the other hand, with the right parenting plan, you can be sure that your children continue to have a great relationship with both of their parents and that they also begin to view the divorce as less of a negative thing in the coming years.
What Should Your Parenting Goals Be?
In order to make sure that you are doing everything you can to ensure the health and happiness of your child during your divorce, you parenting plan goals should include the following:
- You need to always be working to allow your child to have a close and secure relationship with you and your ex-spouse.
- Both you and your ex-spouse should continue to be consistently involved in the life of your child or children.
- Constantly strive to make your child feel heard, loved and cared for by both parents.
- Don’t get jealous of the relationship your ex-spouse has with your child. Instead, acknowledge that it is different from your own relationship with your child and be grateful.
- Work to share all responsibilities associated with your child with your ex-spouse.
How Can You Accomplish These Goals?
Knowing what you need to do and actually doing it are two totally different things. In order to make sure you can actually follow through with the intentions you have set in your parenting plan, follow these tips:
Determine Your Priorities
Your child is likely already your first priority, but you still need to put some serious thought into how to continue to be the best parent possible. You will find that taking care of your child on your own is entirely different from the past when you had the help of your partner. Consider your work schedule, your money situation and more in order to maintain your role as a loving and reliable parent to your child.
Consider What Can Mess Up Your Plan
Things happen. It’s important to anticipate what sort of things can come up that will throw a wrench into your plan of being the world’s best single parent. You may also need to consider your child as a person too. Do they have more of an attachment to either you or your ex-spouse? Are they acting out in response to your divorce? Plan for the worst because unfortunately, getting a divorce is no walk in the park much of the time.
Working on a parenting plan can absolutely cause conflict between you and your former spouse. Remember that despite your issues with your ex, you both want the same thing at the end of the day: whatever is best for the kiddo. Try to remain open-minded and flexible while you work to figure out how to best care for your child now that the two of you are no longer together.
Write Your Plan Out
Making sure that your plan is set in stone will make things much easier in the future. Neither parent can blame the other for anything not done when each of their responsibilities are outlined in your parenting plan, plain and simple.
If you need help from a professional developing a parenting plan that will work for you, your ex spouse and your child or children, we may be able to help you at the Pavithran Law Offices. Call us today and enlist the help of an expert family law attorney!